Here's the second of the three phases you can use for hypnosis. All the caveats from the first part apply here as well..
This step is all about deepening the trance you've just induced. You're trying to increase the conscious mind's focus on something else, and nudge it gently out of the way, to free up the subconscious mind.
Her eyes are now closed, so you need to giver her something new to focus on -- some sort of guided imagery. If you've seen enough movies or read enough stories, you know the sorts of thing: Take her on a mental walk down a long beach, with the waves crashing in, gulls screeching, hot sun. Or have her step slowly down a long staircase, counting each step down to zero as you go. Or send her anywhere else that she will find familiar and easy to imagine.
Wherever you send her, give her multiple "senses" to work with. Point out not just what she's seeing but also what she's hearing and feeling and smelling. You don't know which sense she's best able to "imagine" with, so try them all in concert.
I think it's important to phrase your instructions as directly as possible: "The sun is warming your skin" rather than "You're feeling warm" or "You imagine that you're getting warmer." In other words, don't use any phrases that remind her that it's imaginary.
The stair-step images are are nice because they give you a steady pace for emphasizing two things: How much more relaxed she's getting, and (very important) how much she wants to follow your lead downward. Point out that your voice is guiding her there, how your voice is the only thing she can hear now. Take your time, count the steps down.
At the bottom of the steps, or whatever goal you've set for her, she should be completely relaxed. Her conscious mind should be pretty thoroughly disengaged, and her subconscious sitting there idling, waiting to hear from you.
You may find this hard to confirm. After all, a light trance and a heavy trance both look pretty much the same, although her breathing will be almost sleeplike in the latter.
You can ask her a simple question, like "Are you comfortable" and judge how soft and distant her voice has become.
You can tell her that her arm is getting light, and watch how it drifts upward. An erratic, jerky motion is what you want to see. Too smooth a motion means her conscious mind just raised it for you.
Once again, there's no need to rush. She's unlikely to be measuring time very closely at this point, and will appreciate the calm. If it seems like she needs reassurance from you, say something like, "OK, now just float here for a few minutes until I need you again".
You'll want to pause now anyway to consider your next moves.
Wednesday, February 28, 2007
Tuesday, February 27, 2007
Doing It (Part 1)
Here is a do-it-yourself guide to the sorts of games we've been playing.
First the important caveats:
* This is not "how to be a hypnotist" any more than one recipe is "how to cook." It's an example of a classic "model" and classic technique, described in many places, that works with some people. It won't work for everyone.
* We can't take any responsibility for what you do with this information. You're on your own.
* Remember the BDSM code: safe, sane and consensual.
* You'll get nowhere if your sub doesn't already trust and obey you. You need a willing, aware subject.
* Sorry for the sexist language. Adjust the genders here to fit your own circumstances.
Ready?
In case you hadn't figured this out by now, the hypnotism we practice is not a process of taking control of a sub's mind. Instead you're simply empowering your sub to be aware of her subconscious and let that part communicate with you more directly. It allows the subconscious to hand control of her mind to you -- to the extent she wants to -- just as the conscious mind has handed some control of her body to you.
The process is fairly straightforward, in three phases. First you put her into a relaxed trance. Then you deepen the trance, to the point where you're talking only to her subconscious. Then you instruct the subconscious.
Take each step separately, ask her for feedback, adjust accordingly.
I'll just cover the first step now: putting her into a relaxed, light trance. Relaxation isn't the only way to start hypnosis, but it's popular because people expect it and -- even if you get no further -- a few minutes of floaty relaxation are lovely.
In a quiet room, have her lean back in a comfortable chair. This trance induction requires her to focus her eyes steadily on something, while you talk her through a gradual and thorough self-relaxation. This concentration-while-relaxing is the key to the first phase.
Have her focus on any little shiny thing that is nearby, or any little object that stands out from its background.
Tell her to keep her eyes on it, not to let her gaze slip, not to let her eyes close, no matter how heavy her lids become, because once her lids close they won't be able to open again. Repeat that several times, interspersing that same message with instructions to gradually relax her whole body.
Name her body parts from the feet upward to the head. She should think about each part, feel it relaxing, melting, turning to rubber, going numb, whatever, and then move upward. Guide her.
Go slowly, give each one a chance to take hold. Add that every time she lets out a breath, out with it goes half her remaining tension.
Your words and tone are important. Be calm, confident and direct, but allow her to find her own pace; "describe" what she's to do but don't be pushy. Easy does it. If you've never talked someone into a trance before, you may be surprised at how little work you have to do.
This first phase continues until her eyes wink shut for the last time and her head flops sideways onto her shoulders. She's now in a light trance, feeling detached but listening to you. Tell her she's feeling lighter, floating up to the ceiling, hoisted by helium balloons. Let her drift; there's no rush.
First the important caveats:
* This is not "how to be a hypnotist" any more than one recipe is "how to cook." It's an example of a classic "model" and classic technique, described in many places, that works with some people. It won't work for everyone.
* We can't take any responsibility for what you do with this information. You're on your own.
* Remember the BDSM code: safe, sane and consensual.
* You'll get nowhere if your sub doesn't already trust and obey you. You need a willing, aware subject.
* Sorry for the sexist language. Adjust the genders here to fit your own circumstances.
Ready?
In case you hadn't figured this out by now, the hypnotism we practice is not a process of taking control of a sub's mind. Instead you're simply empowering your sub to be aware of her subconscious and let that part communicate with you more directly. It allows the subconscious to hand control of her mind to you -- to the extent she wants to -- just as the conscious mind has handed some control of her body to you.
The process is fairly straightforward, in three phases. First you put her into a relaxed trance. Then you deepen the trance, to the point where you're talking only to her subconscious. Then you instruct the subconscious.
Take each step separately, ask her for feedback, adjust accordingly.
I'll just cover the first step now: putting her into a relaxed, light trance. Relaxation isn't the only way to start hypnosis, but it's popular because people expect it and -- even if you get no further -- a few minutes of floaty relaxation are lovely.
In a quiet room, have her lean back in a comfortable chair. This trance induction requires her to focus her eyes steadily on something, while you talk her through a gradual and thorough self-relaxation. This concentration-while-relaxing is the key to the first phase.
Have her focus on any little shiny thing that is nearby, or any little object that stands out from its background.
Tell her to keep her eyes on it, not to let her gaze slip, not to let her eyes close, no matter how heavy her lids become, because once her lids close they won't be able to open again. Repeat that several times, interspersing that same message with instructions to gradually relax her whole body.
Name her body parts from the feet upward to the head. She should think about each part, feel it relaxing, melting, turning to rubber, going numb, whatever, and then move upward. Guide her.
Go slowly, give each one a chance to take hold. Add that every time she lets out a breath, out with it goes half her remaining tension.
Your words and tone are important. Be calm, confident and direct, but allow her to find her own pace; "describe" what she's to do but don't be pushy. Easy does it. If you've never talked someone into a trance before, you may be surprised at how little work you have to do.
This first phase continues until her eyes wink shut for the last time and her head flops sideways onto her shoulders. She's now in a light trance, feeling detached but listening to you. Tell her she's feeling lighter, floating up to the ceiling, hoisted by helium balloons. Let her drift; there's no rush.
Fool the Eye
One reason our illusions are so effective is that they look authentic to e. She doesn't just feel the ropes, she sees them around her legs. She doesn't just taste the strawberry, she sees it in her hand. When all your senses are pulling in the same direction, your mind tends to believe. In most cases, e reports that scenes score 9 out of 10 for believability.
It wasn't always this way. I remember that the first time I gave her labial rings, she reported they were slightly transparent at first, and then greatly faded the next day. I just told her to make them stronger again, several days in a row. That seemed to work. I also remember telling her once that when she looked in the mirror she'd see my face instead of hers. What she saw instead was my face blended with hers. Apparently it's difficult to apply your makeup that way.
Why are these illusions now so clear to her? I'm not sure. But she does have a vivid imagination. And she has a very strong memory for images. I was showing her a few photos from the web, and she was able to tell me immediately which ones she'd seen before. She has a strong memory for places; she gave me a narrated walk around her college suite one time, clearly intrigued by some of the visual memories she was recovering in the process.
Another reason her visual illusions are clear and convincing is that ... I told her so. When I'm not sure how well an effect is going to "take," I sometimes boost my odds by simply telling her that she will find it completely persuasive and real. Hey, whatever works.
The only problem comes with images of things that she's never seen before. We have this running joke about Scotland, because I once told her to go there for a few minutes. Problem is, she's never been; she had nothing to draw upon except some magazine advertisement photos in her head. She said Scotland looked very clean, tidy, immaculately composed, with perfect sheep on the hillside. ... That scene returned last week when she flew over it as a dragon. Same damn sheep.
It wasn't always this way. I remember that the first time I gave her labial rings, she reported they were slightly transparent at first, and then greatly faded the next day. I just told her to make them stronger again, several days in a row. That seemed to work. I also remember telling her once that when she looked in the mirror she'd see my face instead of hers. What she saw instead was my face blended with hers. Apparently it's difficult to apply your makeup that way.
Why are these illusions now so clear to her? I'm not sure. But she does have a vivid imagination. And she has a very strong memory for images. I was showing her a few photos from the web, and she was able to tell me immediately which ones she'd seen before. She has a strong memory for places; she gave me a narrated walk around her college suite one time, clearly intrigued by some of the visual memories she was recovering in the process.
Another reason her visual illusions are clear and convincing is that ... I told her so. When I'm not sure how well an effect is going to "take," I sometimes boost my odds by simply telling her that she will find it completely persuasive and real. Hey, whatever works.
The only problem comes with images of things that she's never seen before. We have this running joke about Scotland, because I once told her to go there for a few minutes. Problem is, she's never been; she had nothing to draw upon except some magazine advertisement photos in her head. She said Scotland looked very clean, tidy, immaculately composed, with perfect sheep on the hillside. ... That scene returned last week when she flew over it as a dragon. Same damn sheep.
Sunday, February 25, 2007
Our First Converts
Our fondest wish in presenting this blog is that other Dom/sub couples will explore mind control too. Honestly, I think that with 10 minutes of careful talk, many Doms could have their subs diving into levels of submission that they had no idea were so close at hand.
For months, I've been urging my friends K and c to try hypnosis. They seemed perfect for it. He's creative and confident; she's trusting and limitless. But they were reluctant, I think put off by images of c turning into a useless zombie. And, as he said, she already obeyed him completely, so what was the need.
Well ... they've tried hypnosis now. And they're really impressed.
What's fascinating to me is how quickly c fell into this. The standard procedure is three parts: relax her into a light trance, deepen her into a profound trance, then start giving her instructions. In c's case, she went straight to the bottom, just from the initial relaxation.
As she tells it, all she knows is that her eyes closed. Some unknown time later they opened again, with no memory of the time away. She discovered her hands stuck behind her head, the distinct feeling that her bottom had been used, and most shocking of all, needles through her nipples, for the first time.
"I don't recall any of it. It's a strange thing. It's like I leave my body or something."
But here, let K describe it from his perspective. I doubt he even thinks of this as hypnosis, since all he did was talk her into a relaxed state until her eyes closed. And even with her eyes closed, she wasn't gone.
"She was talking to me. We had a chat, then I told her my cock was in her ass and put a vibe over her clit while I used the needles. She was talking constantly then ... you should have heard the filth coming our of her mouth.
"She took the needles in without flinching. Once they were in, I told her she had to follow everything I told her to do. She went kinda quiet and a bit giggly as I told her to touch her tits and then told her she couldn't move her hands. Her hands were pushing on the needles yet she passed no comment... Then when I told her to move them she automatically put them by her sides.
"Then I told her to put her hands behind her head and she wasn't allowed to move them. The I got her to open her eyes ... her hands never moved. When she opened her eyes and saw the needles she didn't freak out, she just didn't seem to understand how they got there. You could see the fear in her eyes when she saw the needles and could tell she was feeling pain when she started whimpering. She was so good though...didn't move her hands at all. Didn't really comment on the needles either, she just stared at them... then her eyes rose and she just stared at me ... I must admit, that look of fear and confusion was hot. Later she told me she was terrified when she saw them, but her mind told her not to comment."
K didn't realize that c also had "felt" the after-effects of the phantom anal sex. "That is cool," he said.
"I'm not sure how far along this road I want to take things with her, but I will admit it's an interesting game to play."
...
PS: I think this is my cue to start writing up some guides for how to do this yourself.
For months, I've been urging my friends K and c to try hypnosis. They seemed perfect for it. He's creative and confident; she's trusting and limitless. But they were reluctant, I think put off by images of c turning into a useless zombie. And, as he said, she already obeyed him completely, so what was the need.
Well ... they've tried hypnosis now. And they're really impressed.
What's fascinating to me is how quickly c fell into this. The standard procedure is three parts: relax her into a light trance, deepen her into a profound trance, then start giving her instructions. In c's case, she went straight to the bottom, just from the initial relaxation.
As she tells it, all she knows is that her eyes closed. Some unknown time later they opened again, with no memory of the time away. She discovered her hands stuck behind her head, the distinct feeling that her bottom had been used, and most shocking of all, needles through her nipples, for the first time.
"I don't recall any of it. It's a strange thing. It's like I leave my body or something."
But here, let K describe it from his perspective. I doubt he even thinks of this as hypnosis, since all he did was talk her into a relaxed state until her eyes closed. And even with her eyes closed, she wasn't gone.
"She was talking to me. We had a chat, then I told her my cock was in her ass and put a vibe over her clit while I used the needles. She was talking constantly then ... you should have heard the filth coming our of her mouth.
"She took the needles in without flinching. Once they were in, I told her she had to follow everything I told her to do. She went kinda quiet and a bit giggly as I told her to touch her tits and then told her she couldn't move her hands. Her hands were pushing on the needles yet she passed no comment... Then when I told her to move them she automatically put them by her sides.
"Then I told her to put her hands behind her head and she wasn't allowed to move them. The I got her to open her eyes ... her hands never moved. When she opened her eyes and saw the needles she didn't freak out, she just didn't seem to understand how they got there. You could see the fear in her eyes when she saw the needles and could tell she was feeling pain when she started whimpering. She was so good though...didn't move her hands at all. Didn't really comment on the needles either, she just stared at them... then her eyes rose and she just stared at me ... I must admit, that look of fear and confusion was hot. Later she told me she was terrified when she saw them, but her mind told her not to comment."
K didn't realize that c also had "felt" the after-effects of the phantom anal sex. "That is cool," he said.
"I'm not sure how far along this road I want to take things with her, but I will admit it's an interesting game to play."
...
PS: I think this is my cue to start writing up some guides for how to do this yourself.
Friday, February 23, 2007
Playing Inside my Head
What's the big deal? How is being hypnotized to obey so different from simply being a very devoted submissive?
Since now i'm a bit of both i thought i'd try and tackle the subtle and sometimes not so subtle differences here.
When i first met Sir, we started things out slowly, testing the waters and building trust. Much like any Dom/sub relationship, as we got more comfortable with one another we pushed further. Being a fairly naturally obedient sub, giving over to Him came easily for me with time. There is not much that He would have asked of me that i would not have obeyed.
So ... when we started talking about trance and hypnosis, it was strange that i would be fearful. After all, i already trusted Him to guide and play with my body. After much consideration, it became clear that my fear came from the magnitude of power i would be giving up.
You may wonder why this is so different, so powerful, if i was going to obey Him anyway. For me, the difference is this ...
Before trance, it was a conscious choice to obey, and i knew exactly what i was doing every single time. As a sub, i still had my own thoughts, my own feelings, and my own objections that could be voiced at appropriate moments.
But if i was to give in to the trance, to His voice, He would have free rein to play inside my head. At a moment's notice, He could have me do nearly anything and i would literally be unable to disobey.
After weighing each side pretty carefully, i threw away all the arguments and went with my gut instead of my head like i usually do. i leapt. i gave in, and trusted that while He might push me, He enjoyed playing with me and wasn't going to do anything to ruin that.
Now i just obey, regardless. No thought, no hesitation. It just happens -- and often i don't remember until He allows me to recall it.
The difference is in that moment of hesitation. Before, i needed to think about it, process it and consciously obey. Now ... it just is.
It may seem scary. And quite often i am still in complete awe of what He has achieved, but the power of it is actually somewhat comforting. He still keeps me safe, yet can take me toe to the line, a hair's breadth from my limits, with just a few carefully placed words.
On the flip side, He can take me to a place of such deep relaxation that absolutely everything else in my life falls away. i can literally be a pet at His feet. He can take me away from laundry and dishes and taxes by turning my into a puppy whose only thoughts are of love and cuddles and pleasure. He can change my senses, withhold sensation and turn me into His complete and utter plaything at will.
Without trance this would not be possible, i couldn't have let go that completely.
He has taken me places i never thought i would go. With His words and His incredibly inventive imagination he has gotten further into my head than anyone i have ever known.
Since now i'm a bit of both i thought i'd try and tackle the subtle and sometimes not so subtle differences here.
When i first met Sir, we started things out slowly, testing the waters and building trust. Much like any Dom/sub relationship, as we got more comfortable with one another we pushed further. Being a fairly naturally obedient sub, giving over to Him came easily for me with time. There is not much that He would have asked of me that i would not have obeyed.
So ... when we started talking about trance and hypnosis, it was strange that i would be fearful. After all, i already trusted Him to guide and play with my body. After much consideration, it became clear that my fear came from the magnitude of power i would be giving up.
You may wonder why this is so different, so powerful, if i was going to obey Him anyway. For me, the difference is this ...
Before trance, it was a conscious choice to obey, and i knew exactly what i was doing every single time. As a sub, i still had my own thoughts, my own feelings, and my own objections that could be voiced at appropriate moments.
But if i was to give in to the trance, to His voice, He would have free rein to play inside my head. At a moment's notice, He could have me do nearly anything and i would literally be unable to disobey.
After weighing each side pretty carefully, i threw away all the arguments and went with my gut instead of my head like i usually do. i leapt. i gave in, and trusted that while He might push me, He enjoyed playing with me and wasn't going to do anything to ruin that.
Now i just obey, regardless. No thought, no hesitation. It just happens -- and often i don't remember until He allows me to recall it.
The difference is in that moment of hesitation. Before, i needed to think about it, process it and consciously obey. Now ... it just is.
It may seem scary. And quite often i am still in complete awe of what He has achieved, but the power of it is actually somewhat comforting. He still keeps me safe, yet can take me toe to the line, a hair's breadth from my limits, with just a few carefully placed words.
On the flip side, He can take me to a place of such deep relaxation that absolutely everything else in my life falls away. i can literally be a pet at His feet. He can take me away from laundry and dishes and taxes by turning my into a puppy whose only thoughts are of love and cuddles and pleasure. He can change my senses, withhold sensation and turn me into His complete and utter plaything at will.
Without trance this would not be possible, i couldn't have let go that completely.
He has taken me places i never thought i would go. With His words and His incredibly inventive imagination he has gotten further into my head than anyone i have ever known.
Thursday, February 22, 2007
Secret Plans for My Slave
She doesn't know it, but sometime in the next couple of days e is going to walk into the bathroom and turn into a man. Convinced that she is male, she will stand in front of the toilet and pee into it. Then she'll masturbate to orgasm with her new cock. Then she'll step over to the sink, wash her hands, immediately turn back into herself and remember the whole plan.
This will become part of her daily routine: At noon, whenever she's at home, she'll repeat this ceremony, in her temporary new body. She'll let you know how it feels, I'm sure.
This addition to her daily "compulsions" comes after the suggestion of one of our readers. We worked out the logistics last night, and I installed the instructions. Then I asked her if she wanted the whole thing to be a surprise. She said yes, so ... I wiped her memory of the discussion.
(She's unable to read this entry -- except for the teasing title -- because I've planted that rule too.)
A lot goes into planning something like this. For instance, she doesn't want to wet on the floor, so while her mind is standing facing the bowl, her body will be (mindlessly?) going through its usual routine. She wants to be convinced she's a man, not a woman inside a man's body. So this effect won't occur out in public, for fear that she'd walk into a men's restroom.
I expect we'll find some other things to tweak after the first few days. Stay tuned.
This will become part of her daily routine: At noon, whenever she's at home, she'll repeat this ceremony, in her temporary new body. She'll let you know how it feels, I'm sure.
This addition to her daily "compulsions" comes after the suggestion of one of our readers. We worked out the logistics last night, and I installed the instructions. Then I asked her if she wanted the whole thing to be a surprise. She said yes, so ... I wiped her memory of the discussion.
(She's unable to read this entry -- except for the teasing title -- because I've planted that rule too.)
A lot goes into planning something like this. For instance, she doesn't want to wet on the floor, so while her mind is standing facing the bowl, her body will be (mindlessly?) going through its usual routine. She wants to be convinced she's a man, not a woman inside a man's body. So this effect won't occur out in public, for fear that she'd walk into a men's restroom.
I expect we'll find some other things to tweak after the first few days. Stay tuned.
Your Friend is my Robot
Going public with our games, even to just one sympathetic friend, involves a certain amount of pride and trepidation. I've been overthinking this question of how we can show e's domme friend, whom we'll just call F, all the visually obvious examples of mind control that I can install. Basically, I'm turning her into a little robot with buttons for F to push.
You've sent in some great suggestions to check out. Here's a list of the things we're working on so far.
I'm focusing on effects that either she couldn't do with her conscious mind, or couldn't bring herself to do because they're so outrageous. Or both.
* First a couple of effects that don't quite work yet. I tried to get her to cry on command, but just managed to get her eyes to tear up. And I tried to make her nose run, but just succeeded in making it stuffy. We'll send these back to the developers for more work.
* If F touches e's nose, then her hands will clamp tight to her breasts, glued there, unmovable until her nose is touched again. This leaves e helpless to resist ... whatever. F already has tried this out, when they had coffee together.
* If e is touched between her breasts, her nipples will flex in and out of their own accord. Sorry we haven't been able to get single nipple response to work, just a tingle so far.
* Not sure where to put this button, but: I can command her to raise gooseflesh on her arms. I think this subtle effect might be the most impressive one of all, oddly enough.
* F can run a candle flame along the most sensitive bits of e's body, and elicit no response at all. Or she can cover her with clothes pins with no reaction.
* If e snaps her fingers, anytime, anywhere, her bladder voids on the spot. We've mentioned this before, but F hasn't seen it, and I'm thinking she'll be blown away.
* F knows e well enough to realize that she could never do this voluntarily: Converse in an outrageous French accent. (e winces every time I mention this.)
* If F touches e's navel, she's going to see something really impressive. e has now been trained to have a G spot orgasm, complete with long squirt, on command. Unlike her regular instant orgasms, this one takes a few seconds to build to release, but the sound effects during the buildup alone make it worth the wait.
* If F touches e's anus, she's in for a surprise. It will immediately open up to admit her hand. Her whole hand, just like that.
What do you think?
You've sent in some great suggestions to check out. Here's a list of the things we're working on so far.
I'm focusing on effects that either she couldn't do with her conscious mind, or couldn't bring herself to do because they're so outrageous. Or both.
* First a couple of effects that don't quite work yet. I tried to get her to cry on command, but just managed to get her eyes to tear up. And I tried to make her nose run, but just succeeded in making it stuffy. We'll send these back to the developers for more work.
* If F touches e's nose, then her hands will clamp tight to her breasts, glued there, unmovable until her nose is touched again. This leaves e helpless to resist ... whatever. F already has tried this out, when they had coffee together.
* If e is touched between her breasts, her nipples will flex in and out of their own accord. Sorry we haven't been able to get single nipple response to work, just a tingle so far.
* Not sure where to put this button, but: I can command her to raise gooseflesh on her arms. I think this subtle effect might be the most impressive one of all, oddly enough.
* F can run a candle flame along the most sensitive bits of e's body, and elicit no response at all. Or she can cover her with clothes pins with no reaction.
* If e snaps her fingers, anytime, anywhere, her bladder voids on the spot. We've mentioned this before, but F hasn't seen it, and I'm thinking she'll be blown away.
* F knows e well enough to realize that she could never do this voluntarily: Converse in an outrageous French accent. (e winces every time I mention this.)
* If F touches e's navel, she's going to see something really impressive. e has now been trained to have a G spot orgasm, complete with long squirt, on command. Unlike her regular instant orgasms, this one takes a few seconds to build to release, but the sound effects during the buildup alone make it worth the wait.
* If F touches e's anus, she's in for a surprise. It will immediately open up to admit her hand. Her whole hand, just like that.
What do you think?
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