In the recent discussions about "the subconscious," I've probably made it sound like all subconsciouses are pretty much alike. In an important way, that's not true at all. The relationship between subconscious and conscious varies a lot.
I was lucky to discover, inside e and in c, a pair of subconsciouses that were happy to be discovered, eager to play, adventurous, confident, sexy -- and pleased to help their conscious halves experience even greater heights of pleasure. I've since met a few more who are like that too.
Turns out, that's not always the case.
If I can group the subconsciouses I've met so far into categories, there are three more:
* The subconscious that is just tagging along for the ride, is pretty passive, and at first isn't too interested in getting involved. I'm thinking here of a subconscious I've been texting with for more than a year, who types single-word responses, never volunteers a thing, and seems happy to follow along with the conscious person's kinks. In a couple of other cases, the subconscious has been playing a child-like role, forever watching the grownup world outside from her safe perch inside.
* A subconscious that is fed up with the conscious person and her layers of inhibitions. Words like "weakling" get thrown around. That was the case with Deborah last summer, whose subconscious called her "a bore" and performed some fairly impressive tricks to display her own lack of inhibitions. Another subconscious wanted to "show that bitch" a few things. I didn't play with her again.
* In happy contrast, the subconscious that is valiantly trying to rescue, repair or disentangle the conscious self. These are not very interested in pleasure or pain. Instead they ask me to help the conscious person overcome low confidence, distrust, weight problems and smoking. Sometimes I've been able to make some useful suggestions.
So when we're talking about "the subconscious" ... or when you're first exploring hypnosis with someone you know ... bear in mind that these personalities come in many flavors.